We've all heard the platitude, "Be confident", right? Easier said than done. Confidence is an ambigious, all encompassing term that women KNOW when they see it, but can't quite put their finger on it. Other guys KNOW once they meet a cool, confident man, however they may not understand what makes that one pickup artist better than all the other lamers.

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Well, here are MY practical suggestions on developing both inner and outer confidence outside a PUA Bootcamp. It's essentially a self-feeding loop, items that you do on the outside (your gestures, movements, etc.) feed to your own ego as well as vice versa. When you ARE confident, then you ACT confident. This is not easy to develop for most guys.

In the event you aren't "naturally" a confident guy, then you're basically going to have to fake it before you make it. And yes, it's going to be hard and women are going to be able to read all the way through you in the beginning. But it's like muscle training, it's PUA Training. It takes a lot of time, practice, and social development. You'll begin to develop this social savvy, flirting skills and you also won't be nervous in social settings. But like exercising, it's gonna hurt and stay uncomfortable as you supersize those flirting muscles.

***Outer Confidence***

1. MOVE SLOW. I don't mean robot slow, but an extremely self-assured "I'm in no hurry so you can sit your ass down and delay until I'm done" kind of slow. This implies controlling any nervous tics in great amounts hand movements, turning around and around, rubbernecking like some tourist at all the hot girls, scurrying around & getting out of people's way, etc. You can be animated, but don't look like a yapping puppy dog on caffeine.

2. LEAN BACK (Sitting). When you're sitting, lean back and BE COMFORTABLE. Your comfort, relaxation and pleasure Tend to be more IMPORTANT than what other people think about you. When you're bullshitting with your friends within the living room, odds are you're kicking within the couch and relaxing such as the couch potato you are. The same goes for almost any other social setting. YOUR COMFORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT OTHERS Think about YOU.

3. LEAN BACK (Standing). The same thing goes for when you're standing and speaking with someone. I was at Drama Club once i saw this cute, blonde girl increase and talk to these Asian guys. Usually the one guy was very animated (nothing necessarily wrong with that), but was leaning backwards and forwards into the girl. The clown- er, guy- appeared to be a pendulum seeing how fast he maintained moving back in and out. Count on me, that's weird. Ideally, you need to appear chill and relaxed. While you talk to someone, you (like a sign of comfort, and intimacy) start to lean in while SHE leans in as well.

4. SMILE & FACIAL EXPRESSIONS. Don't smile A lot of, but give her a smile. Too much smiling makes you look like an instrument. Also realize that there are TONS of different smiles and facial expressions. You have the sexy smile, the smoldering smile, the laughing at you/me smile, the smirk, the innocent smile, the puzzled smile, the "you're retarded" look, the "I wish to kiss you" look, the "Fuck me now" look, sticking your tongue out at her, etc. Use them ALL. Asians especially should do this because, for whatever reason, our facial expressions aren't probably the most readable to others.

5. FEET. Similar to #3, when you're standing, don't stand like a girl: your feet and knees are together. Stand being a man. Men take up lots of space. We need air to circulate between our bait n' tackle. Spread your feet apart. This also has the added benefit of giving you better balance in case some meathead wants to knock your block off.

6. DRINKS. If you are holding a drink, don't hug it like it's only friend. Hold it down by your side. Look around you when you're with a bar. People hold their drinks facing their chest like it's their baby or they do not know what to do with their hands. And NEVER, EVER BUY A GIRL A DRINK in order to talk to her. That's lame and she or he knows it. Lots of pretty women use that tactic in order to get free drinks. Now, it's OK down the road when you've been flirting with her, sitting with her, chilling along with her for 30 minutes to an hour. Then it is like you're just investing in a round of drinks for you personally and your friends. But NEVER Obtain a GIRL A DRINK as a way to open a girl.

7. TOUCH. You shouldn't be afraid to touch girls. After all, don't you enjoy it when a women touches your arm, chest, back, etc.? Same with girls, they enjoy physical touch also. Obviously, however, there always a comfort line. But while you flirt, that comfort increases. You are able to touch the shoulder, arm, offer her a noogie, pick her up, booty bump her, spin her around, throw your arm over her shoulders, hugs, etc. A high level cool guy, they will love it. Again, this takes some skill to develop.

8. VOICE VOLUME. If you're talking in a loud venue, you have to be able to speak loudly and clearly. No one pays attention to the guy who's just whispering. Conversely, you should be able to pull a girl in and commence speaking slowly and seductively.

9. VOICE SPEED. Don't not speak Too quickly. It's a sign of nervousness and discomfort. In the event you sound like some kid who forgot his daily dose of Ritalin, you're gonna weird people out.

10. CONVERSATION. You should be able to generate conversation quickly. You say something, she says something. If you can't hold a conversation for your life of you, start practicing and doing more together with your life so you HAVE something to talk about. Be humorous, playful, excited, sad, vunerable, curious, etc.

11. DOMINATE. Physical space is surely an illusion. It's something that's really just in our minds. Don't be afraid to get into someone's physical space or they into yours. In case you are flirting with someone, slowly walk into their space. When turning people around, place you on their shoulder and gently move them. Tapping on the shoulder is weak. Should you go up to a table to speak to someone, place both hands available and lean.

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12. His full attention. This is self-obvious. In other counries, eye-to-eye contact isn't a big deal, but in America and Europe, it most definitely is. If you can't MAKE and HOLD eye contact, you're considered timid, shy or- even worse- weak in both worlds.

Hell, there's more but I'll delve into that another time. After i have time, I'll explore inner confidence, your beliefs and reality.

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